A simple first step for managing emotions
The brain finds it much easier to manage big emotions if it names them. Teach your young person to identify what their emotions feel like and how to name them by doing it yourself.
"I can feel my shoulders getting tense, I am starting to feel frustrated"
"I can feel butterflies in my belly, I think I am feeling nervous"
"My whole body doesn't want to move, I think I'm feeling fed up"
This will send a soothing signals from one part of the brain to another and calm it down. You might feel a little silly, and your young person might give you an odd look. But at the same time, you are teaching your child to name and therefore tame their emotions.
For more information we recommend: Name It to Tame It video
The Whole Brain Child by Dan Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson